Last night, my three year old niece was listing what everyone in the family was best at. It came to me and I was expecting her to say “Bubba is best and doing exercise” (she knows this is my “work”). She didn’t, her answer blew me away and I cried. She said “Bubba is best at holding me”. She said this because she associates me with love, with soothing her, holding her and rocking her until she falls asleep, which I’ve been doing since the day she was born. To her, I am Love.
So this inspired me to talk this week about how we see ourselves.
How do you see yourself? What do you see when you look at yourself? Do you look in the mirror and think “damn I look good, not only do I look good but I am bossing it at life, I am loved and appreciated, I know my worth, I will be the reason someone smiles today”
You don’t do you?
You could though.
Do you see yourself how you see your friends and family? Do you talk to yourself the same way you do to them? If the answer is no, it’s time to change that. How many times have you complemented someone you care about or even a stranger? “Oh I love what you’re wearing, where’s it from?”, “wow you look incredible, you’re glowing today”, “I absolutely love your tenacity and zest for life, it’s infectious”, “you make me laugh so much”… we’ve all said similar things, so why are you not saying these things to yourself?
How often do you look in the mirror and say “I hate my belly, my thighs, my arms, my ankles, my hair, my nose, my skin”? Or “I’m just not doing a great job as a mum/partner/friend/colleague”? Can you imagine saying that to someone you loved? You wouldn’t. So stop saying it to yourself. Treat yourself and talk to yourself as you would those you care deeply for.
Begin with affirmations. I am brave. I am strong. I am appreciated. I am succeeding. (Succeeding is not defined by finances, it can be defined by getting through a tough day), I am powerful. I am a woman who knows her worth.
These are just examples. The affirmations can be anything you want as long as it is said with the same love you’d say to others.
Secondly when you look in the mirror, give yourself one compliment, see yourself how others see you. It’s hard to begin with, however, if you make it part of your routine it becomes habitual.
Creating healthy habits in the form of daily affirmations, will make YOU see yourself for who you are. Which will be a truly amazing individual who contributes to the happiness and wellbeing of others.
Love thyself first. Always